Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

Has it not occurred to you that your husband of 17 years may not have the ability or experience to plan an outing? Assuming the two of you enjoy those walks and dates

I have now stopped planning date nights and told him that we won’t be going on a date unless he schedules and plans it. (I do not require anything elaborate — a walk or a simple coffee would suffice.) That was two months ago,

Dear Abby, I'm tired of being the only one in our marriage to plan things to do, but when I put the onus on my husband, he's made no plans for two months.

Dear Abby helps a person who is trying to reconnect with their husband of 17 years after a lack of an emotional connection.